When it comes to trying and buying clothes, there is one statement that I keep in mind when your body is changing after no longer dieting.
I found a pair of snow pants on sale online and immediately ordered my size. My daughter found a pair too. We were excited to get them because that means being able to create memories sledding in the snow. We have an amazing hill called Cricket Hill here in Chicago that all the city kids and parents go to when there is a big snowfall.
Once my snow pants arrived in the mail, I immediately tried them on just to make sure before I decided to throw away the bag.
I was not able to get them to button up at all, and they fit VERY snug on my body.
Just great!
I felt defeated at that point. And thoughts started to creep in:
“But I am a large in pants so why don’t these fit?”
“Did I gain more weight?”
“I probably should just give up on this whole non-diet thing and just go on a diet.”
“Maybe I should keep them and one day they will fit me.”
I then remembered this one statement that I had learned in my coaching practice that has really helped accepted my now body and reframed my thoughts to this:
“My clothes fit my body, NOT the other way around.”
If you want to keep going, here are other ones I use:
“I have many pants in the same size. Not all companies use the same measurements.”
” I can’t justify keeping these in my closet if they don’t fit, and that would be a waste of money, I need to find a pair NOW that will fit my current body.”
So right then and there I decided it was not me, it was the snow pants, and happily packaged them back up and returned them to UPS. I put down the reason why I was returning them: ” the snow pants did not fit my body and there is no reason to keep them if I am not going to use them.”
So try these reframes next time you are in a situation where you are trying on clothes and they end up not being in alignment with your body.
Here’s to clothes that fit your body, not the other way around,
-Deanna
Deanna Kozarov LLC 